This woman loved to incorporate the arts and listening in her work as a palliative care nurse and teacher.
Starting a new job during the pandemic had been difficult for her because she was a people person and struggled to connect with new coworkers over Zoom.
“I’m trying to focus on doing little things to make people feel better during everything that’s going on in the world,” she told me.
“It’s important to be present and kind to people because you never know what’s going on behind closed doors. As much as possible, I work to actually get to know the people I’m talking to.”
“Be kind,” she emphasized. “We can all be kind!”
Listener Poet Beck Klassen
Cambia Sojourns Scholars
March 2022
We Can Be Kind
Here is a story I tell myself each day
When I remember my blessings:
You can be kind.
You can be present with people, and
Know that you don’t know
What their lives are like.
You can do little things
To make them feel better.
You can get to know them
By listening and not judging.
Being isolated has been difficult,
But I am grounded in the knowledge
That we can be kind.
“I always believe, no matter what the doctor says, that I will be cured,” she says as her sister sits next to her.
“I wonder if these medical professionals, in caring for people who face such insurmountable odds, walk around all the time carrying this weight I’m hauling now.”
He had been trying to cope with the grief ever since and was on a quest for soul-searching and meaning-making.
She spoke about the ways this traumatic event shaped who she is today: a person with an “unshakeable peace” born of deep faith,
She wanted to help people feel comfortable and transform the shame around colon issues. "I want to talk about things that matter, the things people don't want to discuss.
When we met, she was coming off a stretch of nine 14-hour shifts. She was tired but in good spirits.
She reflected on how her resilience was born from moments of shared mirth amid life's trying chapters.
“Life is complex and dirty, but digging in is important to me,” she said. “Maybe if more of us understood history, we could understand each other better.”
We are expected to research, contribute to scholarship, earn grants – all on our own time.
We are expected to research, contribute to scholarship, earn grants – all on our own time.
Every day, I try to see through the patient lens, and I ask: what can we do to change this broken system?
She was very proud of her daughter and has hopes for “a bright future that’s as pain free as possible”
“I’m trying to focus on doing little things to make people feel better during everything that’s going on in the world,” she told me.
“It’s hard to see others struggle,” she said. “How can I help with their struggle without struggling myself?”
"I'd tell her it's OK to be loud...it's OK to challenge and to bring all of you into these spaces where no one looks like you..."
“I'm continuously questioning: did I do it right?" she said. "I’ve always done a good amount of second-guessing, but I’m re-learning how to show up differently.”
“It’s weird,” she said. “This is one of the biggest accomplishments of my life, but it doesn’t feel like it.”
"It changed me; It changed the way I look at life," said this woman about her profound experience during her pregnancy.
“It’s been more challenging than normal lately,” she said. “I’m only one person. It's a struggle for me to say no, but I can’t do everything that’s being asked of me right now.”
"I've been processing how to make the most of the small amount of life we have to live," said this physician.