She was in the depths of transition and change in this “concentrated time.”
As we sat for our Listener Poet session, she opened to the grief of the non-traditional losses she has been experiencing. She expressed that the losses had left her humbled, but also unseen and without community ritual. She soaked in the witnessing of the moment as she tried to make sense of the dichotomies of emotion. She longed to feel the potential of a new way of being on the other side of this grief experience.
Delicate Hope
Fingers lightly trace “HOPE” into the fog on the
mirror, how quickly it disappears.
I am left to stare at myself in the reflection.
(invisible)
Grief.
No one else is here with me.
Sacrifices I didn’t know I was about to make,
can I trust my own intuition?
I want to dance and run embodied in this grief.
Yet here I stand.
The delusions and fantasies of yesteryear,
I am grateful to dispel.
But am I ready to stand empowered?
In reality, humbled.
I am wary.
Wary to feel hope.
Delicate, tender, fragile hope.
What I want to be true:
I will find a way to love what’s on the other side.
What I think I know is true:
I feel neglected and can still be empowered.
What I know is true:
This is me in the mirror.
Bearing witness to myself.
Seen in Delicate Hope.
“I wonder if these medical professionals, in caring for people who face such insurmountable odds, walk around all the time carrying this weight I’m hauling now.”
He had been trying to cope with the grief ever since and was on a quest for soul-searching and meaning-making.
She spoke about the ways this traumatic event shaped who she is today: a person with an “unshakeable peace” born of deep faith,
She wanted to help people feel comfortable and transform the shame around colon issues. "I want to talk about things that matter, the things people don't want to discuss.
When we met, she was coming off a stretch of nine 14-hour shifts. She was tired but in good spirits.
She reflected on how her resilience was born from moments of shared mirth amid life's trying chapters.
“Life is complex and dirty, but digging in is important to me,” she said. “Maybe if more of us understood history, we could understand each other better.”
We are expected to research, contribute to scholarship, earn grants – all on our own time.
We are expected to research, contribute to scholarship, earn grants – all on our own time.
Every day, I try to see through the patient lens, and I ask: what can we do to change this broken system?
She was very proud of her daughter and has hopes for “a bright future that’s as pain free as possible”
“I’m trying to focus on doing little things to make people feel better during everything that’s going on in the world,” she told me.
“It’s hard to see others struggle,” she said. “How can I help with their struggle without struggling myself?”
"I'd tell her it's OK to be loud...it's OK to challenge and to bring all of you into these spaces where no one looks like you..."
“I'm continuously questioning: did I do it right?" she said. "I’ve always done a good amount of second-guessing, but I’m re-learning how to show up differently.”
“It’s weird,” she said. “This is one of the biggest accomplishments of my life, but it doesn’t feel like it.”
"It changed me; It changed the way I look at life," said this woman about her profound experience during her pregnancy.
“It’s been more challenging than normal lately,” she said. “I’m only one person. It's a struggle for me to say no, but I can’t do everything that’s being asked of me right now.”
"I've been processing how to make the most of the small amount of life we have to live," said this physician.
"I've been processing how to make the most of the small amount of life we have to live," said this physician.