This poemee is a former college professor who served as an acting academic dean and department head.
She continued teaching students (her primary love!) even as she held these latter appointments, insisting that it was important not to lose touch with what being in an actual classroom entails.
She shared with me how a devastating house fire caused by a propane explosion several decades ago changed the fabric of her and her husband’s lives, reflecting on their experiences both before and after that terrible morning.
She spoke about the ways this traumatic event shaped who she is today: a person with an “unshakeable peace” born of deep faith, which was strengthened as the result of her and her husband being met time and time again with divine grace and an abundance of human kindness as they recovered from their severe injuries.
Listener Poet Kami Bevington
Practicum Poem
CLPC Winter 2024
Tinder
Fire can be fierce.
And that day's maimed us -—
our skin,
our ears,
our countenances
its red-orange fists seizing our grip;
their rage laying claim to our own
fingers kindled
as it crippled our
flame-charred hands.
Propane exploding!
In a flicker of
for all time —- it seemed
the blazes had taken
everything:
our home,
our health,
our good, good life.
Bodies burnt as severely as ours
must be lain immodestly
on debridement tables bare
tinder tinder tinder
there and everywhere.
I remember that morning
being like so many others -—
save for a volunteer firefighter,
jogging where
(he’d known not
why)
he never had before:
his steps directed
to a sudden inferno
that had us
bent
low
inside.
Surely he was an angel!
The first of a whole host that
would our plight attend
strangers not, we knew —
as we entertained them
aware.
No tragedy can outstretch the arms of redemption.
If it weren't for the fire and all that it ushered
in —- the mercy and love that so lavishly ensued,
I don't think I could have survived
my husband's future battle with
dementia.
Sometimes the worst of events is a catalyst most kind:
for an encircling of the knowing grace
He draws with goodness
wide.
“I always believe, no matter what the doctor says, that I will be cured,” she says as her sister sits next to her.
“I wonder if these medical professionals, in caring for people who face such insurmountable odds, walk around all the time carrying this weight I’m hauling now.”
He had been trying to cope with the grief ever since and was on a quest for soul-searching and meaning-making.
She spoke about the ways this traumatic event shaped who she is today: a person with an “unshakeable peace” born of deep faith,
She wanted to help people feel comfortable and transform the shame around colon issues. "I want to talk about things that matter, the things people don't want to discuss.
When we met, she was coming off a stretch of nine 14-hour shifts. She was tired but in good spirits.
She reflected on how her resilience was born from moments of shared mirth amid life's trying chapters.
“Life is complex and dirty, but digging in is important to me,” she said. “Maybe if more of us understood history, we could understand each other better.”
We are expected to research, contribute to scholarship, earn grants – all on our own time.
We are expected to research, contribute to scholarship, earn grants – all on our own time.
Every day, I try to see through the patient lens, and I ask: what can we do to change this broken system?
She was very proud of her daughter and has hopes for “a bright future that’s as pain free as possible”
“I’m trying to focus on doing little things to make people feel better during everything that’s going on in the world,” she told me.
“It’s hard to see others struggle,” she said. “How can I help with their struggle without struggling myself?”
"I'd tell her it's OK to be loud...it's OK to challenge and to bring all of you into these spaces where no one looks like you..."
“I'm continuously questioning: did I do it right?" she said. "I’ve always done a good amount of second-guessing, but I’m re-learning how to show up differently.”
“It’s weird,” she said. “This is one of the biggest accomplishments of my life, but it doesn’t feel like it.”
"It changed me; It changed the way I look at life," said this woman about her profound experience during her pregnancy.
“It’s been more challenging than normal lately,” she said. “I’m only one person. It's a struggle for me to say no, but I can’t do everything that’s being asked of me right now.”
"I've been processing how to make the most of the small amount of life we have to live," said this physician.